Mothers mean the world to each and every one of us. But what if your husband’s world begins and ends only with his mother? The day begins with words of appreciation and ends with stories of what a wonder his mom is! She is there in almost all of the conversations and her advices matter the most in every decision you make as a couple. While it is too late to cut off those apron strings, there surely are ways of dealing with the mama’s pets. We spoke to some couples and took note of their advices. So, read on to know about best ways of dealing with your “mama’s boy” hubby.
Bond with his mother
It can be done! Throw away your ego and the comparisons with your own mother. Genuinely try and get to know her. Spend some “together time” with her; take her for a movie or lunch. Find a common area of interest and spend time doing that together. Remember and accept that there will be some differences. But then don’t you fight with your mom too? Take your time to establish a bond and let her too.
Communicate with your partner
Talk to him to let him know how you feel when he compares you with his mother or when he prioritises his mother way too much. But that will have to be done diplomatically! “Your husband will never agree if you tell him that he is a mama’s boy! You need to tactfully convey your issues and ensure that he maintains a balance between the two women (you and his mother) in his life.”
Don’t ask him to resolve the conflicts
Difference of opinion is inevitable in any kind of relationship. But there are always ways to resolve the conflicts and maintain peace at home. Do not complain about your mother-in-law to your husband every time you have any conflict with her. This will create a balance in the equation.
The bright side of being a mama’s boy
Well, there is always one! According to a study published in Child Development Journal involving almost 6,000 children, “baby boys who do not form strong attachments to their mothers grow up to be more aggressive and destructive children.”
According to author Kate Stone Lombardi, who wrote The Mama’s Boy Myth, it is a myth that mama’s boys are sissy and dependent. In fact, they are sensitive, she says. “Nurturing mothers can help their sons develop emotional intelligence, encouraging them to talk about their feelings and recognize those of others,” she wrote in one of her guest columns.
Mama’s boys are usually too dependent on their mothers for everything from food to laundry and any sort of decision making. The wife, therefore, feels left out. Why not encourage your mother-in-law to take some rest and ask your husband to help you in household work? Or share the responsibilities equally to create a balance at home? Think over these ideas and tips and let us know if they work for you by leaving your comments below.
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