If you’ve been around the relationship block a few times, you know there are many traits in a partner that can turn you on, and that can turn you off. The list can be endless, and may change each time you date someone new. But if you’re looking for that happy, healthy, fulfilling relationship, here are a few traits that should be mandatory in your partner.
1. Healthy Communicator
Finding a partner who can communicate is key. Two partners together who can communicate is a match made in heaven. Good communication should essentially beclear, calm, and direct. A partner who can openly discuss their feelings, hopes, and fears,and who can handle disagreements without a huge conflict, is a keeper.
2. Trustworthy
Trust is essential. If you don’t have trust, it becomes impossible to grow into a committed relationship.
How do you know if someone is trustworthy? Dependability and consistency are characteristics of a trustworthy person. Actions should also match words. If someone talks a good talk, but doesn’t walk the walk, it is a sign that they are not worth trusting. Do they share their life with you, and want to know more about your life? Trust comes from taking a risk with someone and then learning that it was safe to take that risk.
3. Comfortable with Intimacy
Relationships require intimacy. It’s the main ingredient in a relationship that lasts.
Intimacy is the experience of sharing with each other in deep, vulnerable ways. Intimacy can be physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. It makes us feel that we are loved, deeply, and unconditionally. When you have a partner who can bare his or her heart, fears, flaws, and strengths to you, and allow you to do the same, you will find peace and security in a relationship.
If you fear the vulnerability and closeness of a relationship, it is tough to maintain for the long haul. A partner who can go there with you will provide the best opportunity for security and love.
4. Authenticity
Is your partner genuine? Is his personality aligned with what he shows you and the rest of the world? Does she do what she says and say what she does?
If you’re dating someone who is hiding, it becomes impossible to create a healthy, loving, genuine partnership. Instead, your relationship becomes a facade. Find a partner who isn’t afraid to show their true selves, and you will have a better chance of finding love that lasts.
