First, let me defend the sisterhood by saying, many, many women don’t cheat. Especially when we’re in happy relationships. If we’re really into a guy, we’re loyal-from-first-kiss.
Faithfulness is hardwired into our female circuitry.
Now, the unfortunate exception: Some do. Okay, a lot do: The incidence of extramarital intercourse for women is 25 percent, and the estimate of single women who’ve cheated is even higher. And if a woman is going to cheat, there are surprisingly specific times when she’s likely to do it.
Pay attention, because even if you’re sure your woman would never stray, the urge may pop up at one of these times. Then put our advice to work, because the follow-through doesn’t have to happen.
She’s Turning 25 or 30 or 35 or . .
Decade and half-decade birthdays trigger navel-gazing-figuratively, and perhaps literally. A woman asks herself, “What have I been doing for the past 5 years?”
She’ll think deeply about her love life and its direction, and if it’s not going the way she planned, she might jump at the chance to correct it with an affair. The incidence of birthday cheating triples in women who report being in unhappy relationships
The plan: Be there.
There are 2 nights when every straight woman wants a man in her bed: New Year’s Eve and her birthday. Leave her solo and you’re giving her permission—and reason—to cheat. And remember, birthday s*x is about the birthday girl. Presents are good, too.
She’s Been Promoted
Also, women with fat salaries are more likely to cheat.
The plan: Brag about your woman’s promotion.
Most guys make the mistake of not doing enough to celebrate their girlfriends’ accomplishments. When she sees you honoring her, she’ll feel as valued by you as she does at work.
She’s Moving in with You
She could subconsciously interpret this as meaning that you think she’s boring. If there’s someone else around who finds her attractive and intriguing-and shows it-she might go for him instead.
And again, with the whole goal thing-now that you’ve moved in together, she’ll be thinking about the next step, such as engagement or marriage.
Face it, most women want marriage, and they want to have children. If you’re withholding either or both, you’re inviting the risk of her turning to someone else who can make that commitment and give her children.”
The plan: Make it clear that you’re thinking of living together as a starting point.
Talk about the future. Talk about her in your future.
She Thinks You’ve Cheated
It comes down to human nature. She’ll want to get even. She won’t necessarily go out looking to hook up, but when she’s tempted, the fact that you’ve done it may weaken her self-control.
The plan: If you are cheating or have cheated before, confess and apologize.
A survey showed that 86 percent of couples who discussed one partner’s affair were still married, compared with 59 percent of couples who barely talked about it.
If you’re not cheating, you have one paranoid woman on your hands. She probably has low self-confidence. Your job: Compliment her, sincerely, specifically, and often.
You can make her feel better about herself so she won’t become vulnerable to these unfounded suspicions.
She’s Not Getting Enough
If the two of you are not having as much s*x as you used to, she might interpret this as a sign that you don’t find her attractive and that you don’t love her. She may seek someone outside the relationship to validate that she’s still sexually attractive.”
A so-so sex life could also mean you have unresolved problems between you. Research found that 79 percent of cheating women cited dissatisfaction in the marriage as the cause.
The plan: Have more s*x.
If she’s the one who doesn’t want s*x, investigate why. Fix it.
She’s Ready to Bolt
The plan: She sucks—let her go.
You’re free.
Source: Men’s Health Magazine
