In February 2011, I met this girl named Ruth. Two days later, we started dating. In less than a week, we started being Intimate. The relationship blossomed, I learnt a lot of things from her and for that till date I am grateful. I told her I would like to marry her. I was so in love that I began pasting her pictures on my facebook page. One night, I had a dream in which I saw saw unclad men chasing after her. She ran to me and took cover behind me. The unclad men shouted at me to get out of their way. When I asked why, they said I should stay out of the matter. I called Ruth, told her about
the dream but she flared up saying I was accusing her of being demon possessed.
I went ahead to seek spiritual counsel without her, since she refused to reason with me. I was adviced to stay away from her because she had scores to settle in the spirit world, that she can only be free
if she agrees to a deliverance. I called Ruth and told her what I was told but she fought me the more. My friends pressured me to leave her but I refused and even fought them. I loved Ruth so much that I could
not see the situation from a different angle.
Sometime later, Ruth would pick a quarrel with me and use the opportunity to harbour guys in her house for days while I was staying away in anger. I forgave her for that. After some time, I found out she was spending nights in the house of some other guy. We
broke up but got back together again. This was when I proposed to her. She told me she would not be wearing the ring all the time cos she did not want her brothers to see it yet. I took her home after a few weeks and introduced her to my family as my wife to be and they all welcomed her. Ruth’s attitude did not improve. On the 25th of august 2012, we concluded on arrangements for
her to introduce me to her siblings(not the proper family introduction though). We agreed that I would visit her in family house in Portharcourt on the 2nd of September, but due to the way she was sounding on phone as we talked that evening, I suspected something and decided to to pay her a visit three days earlier than our schedule.
On the 29th of august, I went to Ruth’s
Portharcourt home all the way from Owerri,
carrying things she had asked me to bring for her. I called her to come and meet me where I was and take the things I brought for her but she told me she was home and asked me to hang around that she wants to sleep till evening. In anger, I managed to locate her house from the address on the CV I had
sometime ago prepared for her, and behold she was not home, but she kept insisting over the phone that she was inside but will not come out to see me. I told her that if she was inside the house while she talked to
me on phone, she should shout from inside her house to my hearing. That evening, I went back to Owerri without seeing Ruth and told her I was no longer interested in the relationship.
After some time, I started calling her again and she said we could just be friends. I agreed but she later called to tell me that she still loves me and she would want us to continue the relationship and I agreed.
We were happy until two weeks ago when I noticed a pet name ‘’choice’’ in her phone. I ran checks on the number with that name and found out it belongs to a male. When I asked her she told me that ‘’choice’’ is the name of the guy who is just friends
with her. Not satisfied with her answer, I ran further checks and discovered the guy’s real name. I confronted Ruth again with the name, giving her a second chance to come clean but she started to abuse me over the phone. At this point I called the guy’s number, opened up to him. It happened that
at the time of the phone conversation, Ruth was presently in Choice’s house. He was so disappointed and short of words. Until now, she still has my ring in her possession.
My question goes to all girls who behave like Ruth. After all the sampling and finding your
‘’choice’’, why hold on to the other guys and deceive them?
Please guys, avoid terrible girls like this. They are real heart breakers.
I understand how u feel. I just want to tell u that when in a r/ship u shud be sensitive to warning signals, it may be a pointer its not going to work. All girls are not the same, u just came across a bad one.