For many men there can be a level of anxiety that always is present when it comes to leading our family. That anxiety typically revolves around either not having a father as a role model or not having a good role model to pattern themselves around. So how does a man lead what he has never seen before?
Tough question, and I don’t know that anyone can really stand as an expert on this one. That is why the Bible is so significant in the life of a husband. Here are a few suggestions on being a spiritual leader in your home:
1. Pray with/for your kids. Job made offerings for his kids, just in case they sinned.
2. Pray with/for your wife. Isaac prayed 20 years for his wife.
3. Let your family see you reading the Bible, often.
4. Take your wife away as often as possible.
5. Read to your family.
6. Make decisions based on biblical reason, not your own.
7. Don’t rule by the letter of Scripture, but by the law of love
8. Know Scripture for yourself.
9. Love intentionally. Schedule time for each child and your wife.
10.Lead in family Bible Study. Set the time, insist everyone is present and learn together as a family.
11. Lead with humility. Proverbs 15:2
12. Admit mistakes, without fear of losing your strength.
13. Spend personal time with God.
14. Spend time being silly with your kids
15. Let your wife vent. She may find it romantic.
16. Stay fit.
17. Stay spontaneous.
18. Always choose family over career. Always! Read what happened to Potiphar in Genesis 39.
19. Show compassion more than you show an iron fist.
20. Hold family meetings.
21. Calm your wife’s fears.
22. Find 3 Men of the Bible to learn how to be a leader or father from. I like Jesus, Joseph, and Nehemiah.
23. Really listen to and consider your wife’s wisdom when making a decision.
24. Teach your kids what you know and learn with them what you don’t know.
25. Speak positivity into your children early and often. You can do it. You will be a good husband/wife.
26. Be honest about feelings and emotions. I’m afraid does not equal I’m not a man.
27. Don’t quote the Bible, live it.
28. Encourage your wife’s dreams.
29. Set goals with and for each family member and then coach them to the finish line.
30. Find other guys to talk to. No one is perfect, each friend has a different strength.
31. Cherish your wife.
32. Maintain the mind of Christ while interacting with your family. I Corinthians 2:10-14.
Being a leader our family is always a challenge but as we continue to grow spiritually, God will continue to grow us a husbands and fathers.
Source: elevateyourmarriage.com
