UK based Nollywood actress, Timmy K MacNicol has opened up on her life after tying the knot with a Briton old enough to be her father.
The actress alleged that her ex-husband not only abused her but also forced her to take blood oath all through the time their marriage lasted.
Timmy married a British man at the age of 19 and filed for divorce on February 6, 2020 to save her life.
She continued saying;
“Every single day, my son would ask me why is it that daddy is not here to take me school. Why is my daddy not here to play with me? This breaks my heart seeing my son in pains. When he goes to the park and sees other of his friends playing with their dad, he feels so bad because he has never experienced such. Don’t get me wrong, my estranged husband loves his children dearly. He would do anything for them. But I wanted more; affection, being in his life and not by buying expensive gifts and toys. My son’s room is filled with expensive toys. That’s is not what my son really wants or needs in his life. He needs his two parents bringing him up equally. Whenever my son, laments I cry bitterly because it reminds me of me. I didn’t grow up with my father or mother. It made me to make so much mistakes in life. I stayed and married this man because I wanted a family. I thought he was a good man. He is a nice man inside but he has ego and rudeness. They cover those nice sides of him.
He denied me family. My son is 9 years old now. I am ought to have like two other children but that’s not happening. I am not Mary that gave birth to Jesus without sex. I have been going through trauma. This marriage has cost me a lot. “
Timmy also advised young girls planning on marrying older men saying;
“Young girls should avoid getting married go an old man; an elderly man, old enough to be their father or even grandfather. You would be denied a lot. The man is old already and gotten children from other women.
“So after one child, he might not want more from you. If you want more than one child, that would be almost impossible. Getting married to an elderly man, you end up giving more to the man, the only thing he would be giving back to you, is money. And not even all the time because he got other children to take care of.
“You see, I wasted my life, just like that. In all, I still give God all the glory.
Thank God that I am still alive and talking about my experience, so that other young girls can learn. Thank God I have a son. I pray that God sees me through the divorce. I would have to come back and start life afresh with my son.”
On how her husband abused her, she said;
“My relationship with him started when he was my Godfather. From there to something else. Then we got engaged and got married. Then I was busy with my career. I was at a movie training in Ghana when I got pregnant. It was a huge project. I was doing Taekwondo training. We were much then. It would have been my major breakthrough that was when I found out I was pregnant.
“Then my misery started. When I told him I was pregnant, he was happy and asked me to stop the training because it was not good for the baby. That was how I lost out on that huge project. And paused my career. I lost everything. We hadn’t gotten married then. We got married after pregnancy. But then the abuse started. I was quite young then and naive too. I was also an orphan, so he took advantage of that. I saw him as a father figure who was willing to help me. I had no idea I was being used by this man.
“This man was treating me like his daughter. He goes to the market, does all the shopping and all.
“When I was 7 months pregnant. He would go to the bar drink till 2am, then return home to go to work by 7am. I was alone and cry every single day. He doesn’t care about me or the pregnancy. He also hits me during pregnancy. He was also cheating on me. When I confronted him, he hit me so bad. He almost broke my hand and cut my lips…”
Your views are not entirely correct about your present experience.Lack of sex from a man who was going shopping for you and cooking and doing the dishes in addition to providing care and support and money, does not equals to selfishness or emotional abuse as you have claimed, here from the same man.First he would have been stressed out and under fatigue, even you wont be able to enjoy sex even if you got involved.What was missing was lack of proper planning.There were ways and methods you cold have applied to your situation and got the desired results but you did not know about that, and since divorce is the only one you know hence you chose that.
Men are also like every other person, agents of wisdom and tact is the only way to have gotten around your issues with him, but you definitely lacked it. Marrying a younger person could still have given you something similar or even worse depending on what was putting him off from your presence which you did not disclose nor bother to find out.
Love is built over time between spouses but sex is never built, you simply need to keep rejuvenating that act and any long breaks affects both parties.Besides you may be the type that keep waiting for him to initiate or make that happen. Having him around most times may not be feasible if he also has other children demanding attention i agree with that. But it is better to have a roof above ones head with some financial security than to keep roaming the streets in search of a capable young lover that may never come or who if he comes may also want strange things you cannot give to him leading to either the same divorce here or even worse death from a lover as is common nowadays between young lovers for flimsy excuses.All the same get over it and move on.